There are a number of things you could do to get yourself out of your comfort zone and look at better opportunities. Let me talk about the Three most important ones.

• Upgrade your peer group.

In this matter you can do many things like you have 5 people around you. Your Five  best  friends and family. Are they inspiring positive people who encourage you and support what you are doing?  Do they push you and make you accountable?  You can find them in Facebook groups, Meetup groups, check your local library for different groups. Join a sports club, contact someone online to help or get a coach. many ways to find people who are inspiring.

• Increase yourself in personal development.

The most important work you can do is to work on yourself. Work on your mind, your body and your soul. Meditation is a wonderful thing for clarity. Running, walking, going to the gym are all great. Anything that improves who you are. Go to seminars and conferences that can change your life. Once you change yourself you will be able to change your circumstances. If you don’t like your job, change it. If you are in a bad relationship, change it.

• Decide your goals.

Writing anything down brings it to life. Write down your goals for 3 months, 6 months and 12 months. Where do you want to be, what do you want to do and what do you want to have? Once we write things down and read them aloud before bed and first thing in the morning it gives the goal an identity and brings it to life. A goal is like a beacon to follow. No beacon means getting lost. Don’t get lost. Write down and plan your goals.

• How It’ s not so much a question of how it’s closer to What change do I have to make go be able to step outside my own comfort zone?

Some people get thrown into situations, like at college. Socially awkward loners are now forced to have a roommate. That will change you, you’ll grow. In college, middle, high school, your teachers know you’ve got a small comfort zone already. That’s why they pair you up with others, to force you to interact. It’s not in a bad way, it’s a guiding hand to get you there. What about with dating? How will you overcome the socialization jitters on a date? That’s hard for everyone, especially the first time. My advice would be to find a friend if the opposite gender to go on a fake “date” with you. They can guide you on how to interact, what to say, how to say it, how to avoid small talk, and develop something that leads to real conversation. Practice makes perfect. Don’t forget to pick up the tab for them since they’re teaching you.

It sounds silly, but behaviours are all learned traits, and while it’s easier for some than others, conversational skills take time to develop. But truly, the only way to get out of your comfort zone is to force yourself to. Sign up for a high ropes course. These are meant to force teammates to work together, or they’ll fail. Yes, it’s weird at first. I remember that I had to catch the prettiest girl in our group as she swings toward me from a rope. Then we had to share the radius of a hula hoop until someone else came over. It was so awkward, and I felt nervous the entire time. Now, looking back I can laugh. I developed so much that day. If I was in charge of a small team of introverts, the first thing I would make them do is to take a high ropes course. Fears come out, teamwork takes hold, and before you know it, you’re not anxious anymore. You’re surrounded by good friends.